A solution to transcend worry.
I’m sitting in a room full of unopened packing boxes in my new home.
It’s been a time of rapid upheaval and change in my family’s life. My back aches from lifting and my mind is cluttered (just like my new dining room).
Yesterday I opened a box labeled “AM Desk” and put those contents into grateful drawers. Ah, that’s better. Now where were we? Oh, yes, creating a sacred life!
Amidst the outer clutter, I recognize something important: chaos in the form of unpacked boxes is nothing compared to the chaos of the mind when it has succumbed to fear.
Because in time, the stuff in the boxes will be put away. I will find the perfect bookshelf. I will replace the broken lamp. I will receive my new recycling bin. I will weed the garden. I will organize the knife drawer.
There is a solution to every lingering question.
I am not afraid. I am not worried. A little ungrounded? Sure. But unpacking is definitely an unfolding process. I can roll with that.
But what about those bigger questions? What about something that is less tangible? Or more important? Or less clear? Or more pressing?
You know… life questions, art questions, work questions, people questions.
Not Knowing the solution to a problem can carry a great existential weight. It drives us to distraction, and is deeply uncomfortable.
I have a workaround. Let me introduce you to one of my favorite practices: asking a Sacred Question.
A Sacred Question differs from a regular question in that you believe and trustthat there is a Sacred Solution.
I believe and trust that my recycling bin will arrive on my doorstep.
Do I believe and trust that I will fulfill my purpose? Or create something new? Or clarify the details of my new program? Or choose the perfect songs for my performance? Or meet the right person to help me with a task? Or live a prosperous life? Or find the right community?
Or know what I want to know instead of living in this state of Not Knowing which is causing me to suffer, worry, and procrastinate?
When you do not know the answer, ask a Sacred Question. Write it down. And let it be. Do not force the solution, nor demand that the Universe supply it instantly for you.
The Sacred Solution is literally one moment away. But you must practice:
1) having faith that there is an aligned answer.
2) trusting the process that will yield that answer.
If you are grasping for a solution with your mind, you will not get the answer you need.
If you allow the question to percolate in a space of divine co-creation, it will appear with ease.
If you want this Really Important Thing to work out, you gotta practice Not Knowing the Answers.
Ask a Sacred Question instead. The solution is already on its way.
Prompts for Not Knowing
Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness. Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.
What is weighing on you right now in your life, art, or work?
Why is this important to you?
What do you fear about not having this figured out? (Name that fear!!)
Do you believe that there is a solution to your problem?
Can you write down a Sacred Question and see how this will play out?
A Prayer for Sacred Solutions
Thank you for the unfolding mysteries of my life.
Thank you for the experiences I have had which have granted me wisdom.
Help me to accept that which I do not yet know.
I pray that I may see past the barriers of my mind.
I pray that I may believe and trust in the infinite possibilities that are available to me when I lay down my worries and choose to co-create with You.
Give me strength and courage to acknowledge my grasping fears.
Give me grace to accept what I do not know.
Give me the will to let go of control.
Illuminate my inner knowing, that I may recognize the Sacred Solution when it is placed right before me.
Help me to enjoy and revel in the mysteries of my life and relieve all worry and suffering.
And so it is. Amen.
About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker
I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression.
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