Navigating the Messy Middle.

— May 25, 2022 —

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

There is a place between your desire and its culmination. I call it the Middle.

Otherwise known as in progress, in process, undergoing, unfolding, happening, rolling out, you get the idea.

Years ago when I was a student, I was impatient for my voice to hurry up and get better. I had a big recital to sing! I had a career to get going! I had to figure this out, and quick!

My dear, wise friend Robert saw my struggle, looked at me, and said, “Alls, it’s a process.

Well, process-schmocess was my response at the time. No one has the time to just sit around and WAIT for mastery. (Ah, the folly of youth!)

Of course, what I know now (and sometimes still don’t accept!) is that the Middle is a place that we live in all the time. Here how it works.

You have a desire. You dare to state that to the Universe.
You remain open to the process.
You receive guidance on how to proceed.
You respond by taking the actions necessary to see your desire fulfilled.
Your desire is fulfilled.

It’s a process. Like something else I know really well, the creative process.

Your life is a creation

However, what gets really sticky is the in-between bits. The waiting. The unfolding. The crafting. The pivoting. The excitement. The mistrust. The crazy thoughts. The revelations. The frustration. The fear. The guilt. 

Depending on your personality or the context, that Middle part might be deeply rewarding, or positively excruciating.

But let me cut to the chase: the Middle becomes Messy when we meet the places in which we are challenged to outgrow.

I’m not gonna lie: meeting your fears, de-conditioning your fear-based programming, and living into a new life usually falls into the Messy category.

It’s new. It’s hard. it’s strange. It’s real. It’s life.

But here is the medicine: the process of actualizing your desires does not have to be some form of torture. When you understand that the pathway to seeing your desire manifest in your life is, in fact, a spiritual creative process, you know that all is actually unfolding perfectly.

I don’t mean that it is easy all the time. We are constantly invited to grow. Which means we are going to meet an edge if you ask for something new in your life.

But we spend most of our time in the Middle. It’s the creative unfolding of your amazing life, work, and art. We are invited and called to trust the process.


Guided Prompts for Acceptance of the Creative Journey

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What is the most urgent desire you have in your life right now?

How are you currently responding to that desire? 

Take a moment to step back and ask: am I responding with my ego, or my spirit?

What are you resisting in this process of unfolding?

Can you radically accept where you are at this very moment?

Prayer for Being in the Process

Dear Creator,
I pray for support in the unfolding process of my life. 
May I be open to guidance.
May I be clearly guided.
May my response to life be wholehearted and courageous.
May I grow in trust, courage, and steadfastness as I walk the pathway of my desire.
Help me to accept the place that I am in at this moment, with the knowledge that all will change, grow, and evolve according to divine plan.
Help me to move through the places in which I am most bound by fear, so that I may be more alive with every passing day.
May my work and life be in honor to you, and in honor of my own miraculous life. 
Thank you for all that I have, and all that I have learned. 
Help me create the life of my dreams, so that the world may be blessed by my works which flow from love.
And so it is. Amen.



About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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