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The unnatural nature of Resistance.

The unnatural nature of Resistance.

The unnatural nature of Resistance.

I know it may not seem that way, but we are constantly in effortless motion.

Every day we are spinning around the Earth’s axis at about 1,000 mph.
The Earth is currently hurtling around the Sun at 67,000 mph.
The Sun and Solar System are whipping through the Milky Way at 448,000 mph.
The Milky Way is whizzing through our local galaxy group at 70 miles per second.

So why, then, does it seem that everything we want take so LONG to hurry up and change?? And why is it so easy for these celestial bodies to travel so effortlessly?

For one thing, Planet Earth is not worried about what we worry about.

I’m pretty sure she is not thinking:
WAIT! I’m not sure I’m ready! or
WAIT! I don’t know enough! or
WAIT! What will people think! or
WAIT! I’m not good enough for that.

No, that script is just for us.

Planet Earth is just herself, a miracle of creation, fostering life and sharing her beauty and bounteousness.

She has surrendered wholly to the unseen force of gravity that not only connects her with all life in the universe, but was the primary cause for her creation. She is, shall we say, going with the flow.

It’s funny how it is part of our nature to resist motion, evolution, and change, even though the laws of gravity are as relevant for us as everything else in the universe.

Why does it seem that when we want something to happen do we then kickstart our Resistance that tries to stop time and keep us from moving ahead? 

Because we fear change. We fear the unknown. We fear that we will lose our controlover what we have, even though we want more than our current situation reflects back to us. 

Why?

I believe it is because our desires are so very precious to us. And we have not been taught how to honor our desires, nor how to understand how they shape our lives.

So when we finally come face-to-face with the actualization of a desire, we kinda freak out?

We want to stop moving. We want to pause Time and halt Gravity so we can properly evaluate the situation: am I safe if I realize what I desire for myself?

Listen, I know that Resistance so well. We are besties. I can smell it a mile away. It is real and uncomfortable. It is a very effective tool for your fear.

But ya know, you are still moving. You are always moving. You are part of nature.

You are a kindred spirit with the Earth, Sun, and Milky Way, all made by a loving Creator, and (sigh) subject to the laws of gravity and motion.

The next time your Resistance kicks up a fuss, just take a notice, and allow yourself to surrender to the inevitable change.

Your life is the vehicle.
Your desires hold the rudder.
And your heart is the compass.

Godspeed!

 

Prompts for Moving Through Resistance

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What is one Desire that is calling to you at this time?

Notice your inner response to this Desire: your thoughts, your physical body, your breath?

Do you notice Resistance, Fear, Excitement, or something else?

Take a calm breath and ask yourself: what is the true, underlying cause of my Resistance?

CHALLENGE: Let yourself soften as you acknowledge the Resistance. What would happen if you surrendered to the flow of Life?
 

 

A Prayer for Your Desire

Dear Creator,
Make me ready to realize my desire for my life, art, and work.
Help me to know my true nature as a being of Love.
Help me to acknowledge my inherent part of this beautiful world.
Help me to surrender to the natural flow of Your Universe.
I pray for your blessing on my desires. 
May I honor them.
Help me to release the grip of fear and loss of control over how my life is unfolding.
Stoke my faith as I surrender to my unfolding of purpose.
Strengthen me with courage as I step into the unknown with a whole heart.
Melt my resistance so I may rise into my calling, in service to You and the world.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

 

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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A solution to transcend worry.

A solution to transcend worry.

A solution to transcend worry.

I’m sitting in a room full of unopened packing boxes in my new home.

It’s been a time of rapid upheaval and change in my family’s life. My back aches from lifting and my mind is cluttered (just like my new dining room).

Yesterday I opened a box labeled “AM Desk” and put those contents into grateful drawers. Ah, that’s better. Now where were we? Oh, yes, creating a sacred life!

Duh!

Amidst the outer clutter, I recognize something important: chaos in the form of unpacked boxes is nothing compared to the chaos of the mind when it has succumbed to fear.

Because in time, the stuff in the boxes will be put away. I will find the perfect bookshelf. I will replace the broken lamp. I will receive my new recycling bin. I will weed the garden. I will organize the knife drawer.

There is a solution to every lingering question. 

I am not afraid. I am not worried. A little ungrounded? Sure. But unpacking is definitely an unfolding process. I can roll with that. 

But what about those bigger questions? What about something that is less tangible? Or more important? Or less clear? Or more pressing?

You know… life questions, art questions, work questions, people questions.

Not Knowing the solution to a problem can carry a great existential weight. It drives us to distraction, and is deeply uncomfortable.

I have a workaround. Let me introduce you to one of my favorite practices: asking a Sacred Question. 

A Sacred Question differs from a regular question in that you believe and trustthat there is a Sacred Solution.

I believe and trust that my recycling bin will arrive on my doorstep.

Do I believe and trust that I will fulfill my purpose? Or create something new? Or clarify the details of my new program? Or choose the perfect songs for my performance? Or meet the right person to help me with a task? Or live a prosperous life? Or find the right community?

Or know what I want to know instead of living in this state of Not Knowing which is causing me to suffer, worry, and procrastinate?

When you do not know the answer, ask a Sacred Question. Write it down. And let it be. Do not force the solution, nor demand that the Universe supply it instantly for you. 

The Sacred Solution is literally one moment away. But you must practice:

1) having faith that there is an aligned answer.
2) trusting the process that will yield that answer.

If you are grasping for a solution with your mind, you will not get the answer you need.

If you allow the question to percolate in a space of divine co-creation, it will appear with ease.

If you want this Really Important Thing to work out, you gotta practice Not Knowing the Answers.

Ask a Sacred Question instead. The solution is already on its way.

Prompts for Not Knowing

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What is weighing on you right now in your life, art, or work?

Why is this important to you?

What do you fear about not having this figured out? (Name that fear!!)

Do you believe that there is a solution to your problem?

Can you write down a Sacred Question and see how this will play out?

 

A Prayer for Sacred Solutions

Dear God,
Thank you for the unfolding mysteries of my life.
Thank you for the experiences I have had which have granted me wisdom.
Help me to accept that which I do not yet know.
I pray that I may see past the barriers of my mind.

I pray that I may believe and trust in the infinite possibilities that are available to me when I lay down my worries and choose to co-create with You.
Give me strength and courage to acknowledge my grasping fears.
Give me grace to accept what I do not know.
Give me the will to let go of control.
Illuminate my inner knowing, that I may recognize the Sacred Solution when it is placed right before me.
Help me to enjoy and revel in the mysteries of my life and relieve all worry and suffering.
And so it is. Amen.
 

Love,

Allison

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I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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The unnatural nature of Resistance.

How to believe in your ideas

How to believe in your ideas

I know you may not talk about it, but I know you have A Thing that’s been on your mind for a while.

That quiet vision, that unspoken desire, that shimmering dream, that kernel of an idea, that sticky feeling that you really, truly, wholly want something.

Maybe it’s a vision of you and your voice, or a project, or your career, or being on stage, or your life, or your art, or maybe even your purpose?

(Oh God, I have it, too! For, like, EVERYTHING.)

And you think: I want my Thing to happen. I want it NOW.

Alas, for the waiting. For the suffering over the waiting. For the hand-wringing. For the doubt. For the lacking and scarcity. For the maybe-this-is-ridiculous-ness of it all.

For that feeling of being so very far away from the fulfillment of your very dear and precious desire.

First of all, I want to honor your vision. Ideas sourced from your true and highest self are righteous. They are sticking to you because you called them into being, and they are waiting to be moved into form right here in your actual life.

So now what? How do you manage it all? How do you get the Thing you want when you are feeling the way you feel?

Because we are not taught:
how to trust ourselves
how spirit is benevolently generous
how to let go
how to be patient
how to be open
how to allow
how to receive
how to respond
how to trust the unfolding of life
how to create our life.

Lemme tell you: I didn’t learn either. I didn’t trust myself, my thoughts, my ideas, or anyone else (let alone “Spirit”) past the end of my nose!

Until the flood of miracles in my life were basically melting away each and every fear I was clinging to. (And still am.)

Including those fears that were bubble-wrapped around my biggest, most precious dreams and desires. And the illusions that clouded the way of my truer purpose and capacity as an artist, teacher, and person.

Why am I telling you this?

Because I know that a truly difficult aspect of allowing your vision to manifest in your life is that you Don’t Know How.

And because you don’t know how (colored by the fact that you were taught that what you actually want is not really possible anyway?), you are in a state of doubt and mistrust mixed with longing and, most likely, low-grade continual existential suffering.

So stop doing that. Here is how to start.

Begin to accept — and learn to be comfortable with — being in a state of I-don’t-know-ness.

I-don’t-know-ness allows your mind to let go of its vice grip on whether or not your idea is a) worthy and b) executable.

I-don’t-know-ness allows your ego to a) soften and b) be penetrable.

I-don’t-know-ness allows your Self to a) relax and b) allow possibility to mix with curiosity, openness, and fresh insights as to how in the world to get this Thing going already and what it will look like.

It’s called the sacred creative process. I have discovered that one of the most vital ingredients is learning to co-exist and be ok with Not Knowing.

I-don’t-know-ness: it’s part of the process.

Then watch what magic unfolds when you let go of needing to know all the damn time, step into self-trust, and allow the sacred whoosh! of life to lead you into miracles.

Your vision becomes reality.

Prompts for Voice Wisdom

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What do you believe that is holding you back around your voice?

What experiences have shaped you?

What is your headspace about your voice?

What is your spirit longing to bring forward?

What is the higher truth that you are meant to know?

A Prayer for Your Voice

Dear God,
Thank you for my voice.
Thank you for all that I am, all that I have learned, and all that I have been.
Guide me now into true wisdom, and the purpose and place for my voice.
Illuminate the inner places where I have grown small.
Grant me courage to break through the false ceiling of limitation, so that I may rise into the fullest potential of my voice.
Give me strength to look inwardly, so that I may know and understand the lessons of my experience. 
Grant me wisdom to know that my experience is the key to my healing, my purpose, and my ultimate joy.
May I raise my voice without censor, without shame, and without hesitation.
May I join my voice with the heavenly chorus who praise You in sacred harmony.
May my voice be blessed, may it be loved, may it be shared in safety.
Thank you, dear God, for my voice. 
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

ps: My weekly newsletter is a day late because of 1) a sick little one with a late night wake-up (😵‍💫) and 2) we bought a new house yesterday (🤪)! Just wanted to share because I love you and missed you. (💗)

pps: It’s the new moon in Leo today (🦁), so if you have a special creative desire, TODAY is the day to plant your seeds of intention for seeing that gorgeous thing germinate into reality (🌱), fertilized by sacred celestial fire (❤️‍🔥)!

 

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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