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A solution to transcend worry.

A solution to transcend worry.

A solution to transcend worry.

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

I’m sitting in a room full of unopened packing boxes in my new home.

It’s been a time of rapid upheaval and change in my family’s life. My back aches from lifting and my mind is cluttered (just like my new dining room).

Yesterday I opened a box labeled “AM Desk” and put those contents into grateful drawers. Ah, that’s better. Now where were we? Oh, yes, creating a sacred life!

Duh!

Amidst the outer clutter, I recognize something important: chaos in the form of unpacked boxes is nothing compared to the chaos of the mind when it has succumbed to fear.

Because in time, the stuff in the boxes will be put away. I will find the perfect bookshelf. I will replace the broken lamp. I will receive my new recycling bin. I will weed the garden. I will organize the knife drawer.

There is a solution to every lingering question. 

I am not afraid. I am not worried. A little ungrounded? Sure. But unpacking is definitely an unfolding process. I can roll with that. 

But what about those bigger questions? What about something that is less tangible? Or more important? Or less clear? Or more pressing?

You know… life questions, art questions, work questions, people questions.

Not Knowing the solution to a problem can carry a great existential weight. It drives us to distraction, and is deeply uncomfortable.

I have a workaround. Let me introduce you to one of my favorite practices: asking a Sacred Question. 

A Sacred Question differs from a regular question in that you believe and trustthat there is a Sacred Solution.

I believe and trust that my recycling bin will arrive on my doorstep.

Do I believe and trust that I will fulfill my purpose? Or create something new? Or clarify the details of my new program? Or choose the perfect songs for my performance? Or meet the right person to help me with a task? Or live a prosperous life? Or find the right community?

Or know what I want to know instead of living in this state of Not Knowing which is causing me to suffer, worry, and procrastinate?

When you do not know the answer, ask a Sacred Question. Write it down. And let it be. Do not force the solution, nor demand that the Universe supply it instantly for you. 

The Sacred Solution is literally one moment away. But you must practice:

1) having faith that there is an aligned answer.
2) trusting the process that will yield that answer.

If you are grasping for a solution with your mind, you will not get the answer you need.

If you allow the question to percolate in a space of divine co-creation, it will appear with ease.

If you want this Really Important Thing to work out, you gotta practice Not Knowing the Answers.

Ask a Sacred Question instead. The solution is already on its way.

Prompts for Not Knowing

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What is weighing on you right now in your life, art, or work?

Why is this important to you?

What do you fear about not having this figured out? (Name that fear!!)

Do you believe that there is a solution to your problem?

Can you write down a Sacred Question and see how this will play out?

 

A Prayer for Sacred Solutions

Dear God,
Thank you for the unfolding mysteries of my life.
Thank you for the experiences I have had which have granted me wisdom.
Help me to accept that which I do not yet know.
I pray that I may see past the barriers of my mind.

I pray that I may believe and trust in the infinite possibilities that are available to me when I lay down my worries and choose to co-create with You.
Give me strength and courage to acknowledge my grasping fears.
Give me grace to accept what I do not know.
Give me the will to let go of control.
Illuminate my inner knowing, that I may recognize the Sacred Solution when it is placed right before me.
Help me to enjoy and revel in the mysteries of my life and relieve all worry and suffering.
And so it is. Amen.
 

Love,

Allison

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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How to decondition bad habits 😖

How to decondition bad habits 😖

How to decondition bad habits 😖

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

For a very long time, habits have been my nemesis. I have read many books on the topic, chasing the “good” ones and disdaining the “bad” ones…

When we are young, we have no capacity to discern between them. And so they settle in, for better or for worse. We follow them unconsciously for a while, until one say we say…

“If only I could be better at establishing good habits!”

It applies to:
vocalizing
(things that happen *while* vocalizing)
dish-doing
meditation
cat medication
journaling

But then there are those more toxic habits. They are like unconscious snakes in the grass, waiting to snap at your ankles when you least expect them.

This used to happen to me while singing. They were Thought Habits: conditioned responses to any situation in which I was to share my voice.

My thought habits were pretty insidious. They had settled into my practice for a long time, and I had no idea how full of snakes my untidy lawn had become.

It is typical that in order to finally change our ways, we hit a breaking point. (Or something actually breaks.) I was so done with the thought landscape of my voice that I swore off my bad habits and, well, everything in my life did a 180°.

I believe the reason why identifying, setting, and establishing “good” habits is so freaking difficult:

You don’t know who you will be on the other side of the habit.

And at the core of this fear surrounding the dissolution of (crappy, unhelpful, potentially self-destructive) habits is that we are too afraid to claim our own divine potential and true worthiness.

Who ARE you when you are prepared, timely, well-rested, creative, calm, and happy? And your cat is thriving, too?

Who are you when you become a grounded, integrated, focused, divine messenger of love, rather than an overthinking, unhappy, spiky, self-doubting soprano?

Changing your thoughts and actions requires a shift in consciousness. And you have to re-learn what to think and do.

But it only takes a small, simple moment to recognize that you are in a habit rut.

Any habit will begin to shift with recognition. Know when you are engaged in an unhelpful habit. Your understanding will begin to crack the veneer of whatever safety mechanism that habit was engaging for you.

Next comes the will to change. The will to embrace not only higher consciousness, but frankly, a better way. Whether in your singing, or art, or just life in general. 

It all begins with what I call a Sacred YES.

It is your call to action, your divine vow, your stepping through the threshold of fire that says, “I am willing to step into my greater potential (even though I am scared and I don’t know what I’m doing).”

Habits are mutable. They are changing, just as we are. Unconscious thoughts and actions based in fear and ignorance need not run the show. 

When you realize that this is no longer working for you, then make the first change: say YES to a better way.

And from one friend to another: I know that you are worthy and capable of amazing things.

Are you willing to claim that for yourself? 

Prompts for Embracing a Better Way

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

Is there a pattern in your life, art, or work that you would like to change? 

Why is this holding you back?

What is the source of this habit, pattern, or behavior? Why does it continue?

Are you willing to change? Yes or no?

If no, what is holding you back?

If yes, are you willing to make that Sacred YES right now? 

A Prayer for Personal Growth

Dear God,
Help me to choose a better life.
Help me to rise into my personal greatness.
Help me to loosen the binds of fear that keep me trapped in the spinning wheel of false safety.
I pray that I may be strengthened in mind and will to make sacred change in my life. 
I pray that I may taste the beauty of my precious life when I embrace my true gifts.
I pray that I may embrace my sacred worth and know my infinite potential when I am aligned with You.
Steady my hand and stand at my back as I walk through the sacred portal to claim the potential of my life, and in doing so become more alive.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

 

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A solution to transcend worry.

You already have everything you require.

You already have everything you require.

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

If there is one thing I could teach you about the voice and singing, it is this:

You already have everything you need.

You can continue to acquire skills and knowledge, better coordination, musical experience, expanded range and breath support, etc.

But that’s not what I am talking about. 

What I have truly learned from all the education, training, experience, coaching, crying, lamenting, rejoicing, and praying is that we, every one of us, inhabits an instrument of divine making.

What we must truly learn is how to access its innate wisdom, brilliance, functionality, and sacredness.

These truths are obscured for most of us. Societal, cultural, and familial conditioning will train us into believing that we have either got it, or we don’t. That our voice is somewhere on the invisible spectrum of Good and Bad.

(I’m kind of over it.)

Indeed, the Truth about the voice? About singing? About accessing your brilliance? About shedding the layers of fear and withholding?

The inner sacred confidence and willingness to share your gifts of sound and spirit does not stem from skills and talent.

It stems from the Knowing that your voice is an instrument of Divine Love, flowing through you in a unique, choreographed, sacred dance of breath and intention.

You have everything you already need, simply by being a human with a reason to sing.

The tricky bit? Well, it’s learning to allow it all to flow without so muchinterruption. Inference. Static. Resistance. Drag. It all comes from the mind.

(And I can spot that B.S. a mile away.)

The medicine is that what you learn how to tap into your innate sacred voice, you have take up the power to wield your voice as the Divine Messenger that you inherently are. 

You can tap into this power whenever you choose, and learn how to release the binds of the mind over your voice, your authentic self-expression, and your creative power in action.

The thing is, you get to choose.

How will you show up with your voice? How will you source the sound? How will you relate to others? And from where will you direct the flow of your musical and creative energy?

From your fear? Or from your heart.

Prompts for Your Sacred Voice

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

How have you related to your voice in the past?

How have you been influenced to think about your voice?

Has this supported you? Has this hindered you? Why?

What would you desire for your voice at this time?

Can you envision a heart-centered way of using your voice?

A Prayer for Your Sacred Voice

Dear God,
I desire to meet, and know, and use my true voice.
You have forged me into a Divine Instrument.
May I delight in my unique form and brilliance.
May I shed the layers of fear and resistance to using my true voice.
May I release the ties that bind my sound, my expression, and my true capacity as a Divine Messenger.
Grant me strength and the courage of a thousand to step into the true power of my voice.
Help me to stand firm in my willingness to share my gifts as an expression of Love.
Help me to use my instrument wisely, with ease, style, calm, and confidence.
Help me to step into my innate, divine brilliance, by nature of being being a divine spark of You.
May I use my voice in sacred service. 
May I shine in the knowledge that my voice is just as it should be in this moment.
May I radically accept the sacred instrument you have bestowed upon me, knowing that it is mine, and mine alone.
May I be an instrument of Your Love.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

 

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Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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The wisdom of Rest

The wisdom of Rest

The wisdom of Rest

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

I am taking some time away up on the coast of Maine with my family for two weeks.

(Two weeks. It seems like two years!)

It’s such a vital reflection point, taking the space and time to remove yourself from the regular comings and goings of life and work. It seems like my brain has been literally rewired overnight.

And in the absence of undergoing the functions of what I *should* be doing, I am asking: what do I choose to do?

What are the components of a beautiful, sacred, and thriving life / art / work?

Well, it seems to me that it’s pretty simple, really. 

The tricky bit is waiting for the outside stuff to match the inside stuff. 

It reminds me of the tides. I have never witnessed the tidal shifts as dramatically as where I am here on this rocky, glacier-carved coastline.

High tide is dramatic and feels so full. Low tide reveals something grittier, and even a little fallow. But teeming with hidden life.

I’ve noticed that we are constantly marking the day by the tides: It’s almost high-tide! It must be receding now. Careful! It’s coming back in fast. It’s not quite low-tide. We should wait.

Those highs and lows only come a few times a day. But what happens throughout the rest of the day? We are busy in the midst of actual life! And it’s a beautiful life. 

I’m going to give myself a new practice: to let go of comparing my highs and lows. But rather, to practice staying in the wave of Things. 

Here are some photos of this incredible place. Thank you for reading, and being here with me.

May your journey of life be full of blessings.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love,

Allison

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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How to be patient ⏳

How to be patient ⏳

How to be patient ⏳

W R I T T E N  B Y  Allison Mondel

Do you know Frog and Toad?

They are *wonderful* anthropomorphic children’s story characters (but really, these stories are for adults).

In a story titled “The Garden,” Toad comes to visit Frog one day, and sees his glorious and abundant garden. My goodness! he exclaims, I wish I could have a garden like this! 

Frog says: it’s hard work. But you can do it. He offers Toad some seeds, and says: plant these in the ground, and soon you will have a garden just like me.

How soon? Asks Toad.
Soon. Reassures Frog.

So Toad goes home and prepares the soil. He plants the seeds. He waters them. But he quickly grows impatient. And frustrated! In the few hours since he has planted his seeds, they have not grown!

He grows more impatient and frustrated. To the point that he begins yelling at his seeds: NOW SEEDS, START GROWING!

Frog happens by to check on his friend, who hears Toad yelling at his garden. He suggests nurturing the seeds, because now they are frightened! So Toad reads a story to them. He sings to them. He tries poems. Plays the violin.

Worried he has traumatized his seeds, and very weary from all the hard work, Toad decides to take a nap.

Frog awakens him, and points out that his seeds have finally, indeed, sprouted. 

This parable is about your inner garden.

Your garden requires some important elements: earth, sun, water, warmth. And patience. 

Let me be clear… Patience is not just waiting around for something to happen. Or surrendering to an eternity of time to manifest your dreams.

Patience is planting the seeds of your intention in a container of timelessness to nurture your garden. I call this sacred patience.

It is, without a doubt, one of the most important lessons I have ever learned as a creative, singer, mother, teacher, coach, entrepreneur, and curious human being.

Having sacred patience is to allow the unfolding of your dreams and desires without measuring the time, having complete trust in the process, and the ultimate manifestation of a fruitful outcome.

The lesson is to know that the timing of the unfolding of your dreams is not going to demand this many hours, days, or years. Because sometimes, our intentions really do manifest in the blink of an eye. (There is no divine ticking clock over our heads!)

And yet at other times, we must allow for the unfoldment of creation. We need time for integration. There may be wisdom to gain, or knowledge to acquire. There are relationships to establish. Or, most often, there is a lesson to learn.

And sometimes, there is a divine plan for you, and it’s simply not time yet.

Our fast-paced, instant-gratification, mercurial-minded muscles are well-honed. We are not interested in waiting around for results if it comes at the expense of a long, drawn-out, endless process.

But your garden is precious. It contains seeds that are sacred: a beautiful life, a beautiful voice, a beautiful work, a beautiful experience, a beautiful vision. 

Try not to rush it. Observe it. But please don’t yell at it! Allow it. Open your heart to its tending. Let go of the impulse to rush, and recognize that time is a thief of the living joy of discovery.

While you do, the fruits that your garden will yield will be more beautiful than you could possibly have intended.

 

Guided Prompts for Sacred Patience

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What are some precious intentions that you have planted in your garden?

How have you tended your intentions? Have you been patient, or impatient?

How would you like to feel as you manifest your intentions?

What does sacred patience mean to you, as it applies to your own garden?

Can you allow a sense of timelessness to support your intentions? 
 

 

A Prayer for Patience

Dear God,
Help me to be still. Help me to be peaceful. Help me to accept patience.
I plant the seeds of my desires in divine soil.
Help me to sow faith in my own precious garden.
Help me to nurture my intentions with love and reverence.
May they be blessed by you.
Help me to relinquish the energy of pushing, and embrace the spirit of allowing.
I entrust the fulfillment of my desires to you, as I surrender the process of their unfolding.
I pray that I may embrace true patience, with the knowledge that all is possible in the field of your infinite potential. 
Help me to become timeless.
Help me to trust.
Help me to embrace the process of growth in all its stages, for the benefit of my unfolding.
May my intentions be held in love, and breathed on by your Holy Spirit.
May they serve my highest good, and the betterment of the world.

And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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