A solution to transcend worry.

A solution to transcend worry.

I’m sitting in a room full of unopened packing boxes in my new home.

It’s been a time of rapid upheaval and change in my family’s life. My back aches from lifting and my mind is cluttered (just like my new dining room).

Yesterday I opened a box labeled “AM Desk” and put those contents into grateful drawers. Ah, that’s better. Now where were we? Oh, yes, creating a sacred life!

Duh!

Amidst the outer clutter, I recognize something important: chaos in the form of unpacked boxes is nothing compared to the chaos of the mind when it has succumbed to fear.

Because in time, the stuff in the boxes will be put away. I will find the perfect bookshelf. I will replace the broken lamp. I will receive my new recycling bin. I will weed the garden. I will organize the knife drawer.

There is a solution to every lingering question. 

I am not afraid. I am not worried. A little ungrounded? Sure. But unpacking is definitely an unfolding process. I can roll with that. 

But what about those bigger questions? What about something that is less tangible? Or more important? Or less clear? Or more pressing?

You know… life questions, art questions, work questions, people questions.

Not Knowing the solution to a problem can carry a great existential weight. It drives us to distraction, and is deeply uncomfortable.

I have a workaround. Let me introduce you to one of my favorite practices: asking a Sacred Question. 

A Sacred Question differs from a regular question in that you believe and trustthat there is a Sacred Solution.

I believe and trust that my recycling bin will arrive on my doorstep.

Do I believe and trust that I will fulfill my purpose? Or create something new? Or clarify the details of my new program? Or choose the perfect songs for my performance? Or meet the right person to help me with a task? Or live a prosperous life? Or find the right community?

Or know what I want to know instead of living in this state of Not Knowing which is causing me to suffer, worry, and procrastinate?

When you do not know the answer, ask a Sacred Question. Write it down. And let it be. Do not force the solution, nor demand that the Universe supply it instantly for you. 

The Sacred Solution is literally one moment away. But you must practice:

1) having faith that there is an aligned answer.
2) trusting the process that will yield that answer.

If you are grasping for a solution with your mind, you will not get the answer you need.

If you allow the question to percolate in a space of divine co-creation, it will appear with ease.

If you want this Really Important Thing to work out, you gotta practice Not Knowing the Answers.

Ask a Sacred Question instead. The solution is already on its way.

Prompts for Not Knowing

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What is weighing on you right now in your life, art, or work?

Why is this important to you?

What do you fear about not having this figured out? (Name that fear!!)

Do you believe that there is a solution to your problem?

Can you write down a Sacred Question and see how this will play out?

 

A Prayer for Sacred Solutions

Dear God,
Thank you for the unfolding mysteries of my life.
Thank you for the experiences I have had which have granted me wisdom.
Help me to accept that which I do not yet know.
I pray that I may see past the barriers of my mind.

I pray that I may believe and trust in the infinite possibilities that are available to me when I lay down my worries and choose to co-create with You.
Give me strength and courage to acknowledge my grasping fears.
Give me grace to accept what I do not know.
Give me the will to let go of control.
Illuminate my inner knowing, that I may recognize the Sacred Solution when it is placed right before me.
Help me to enjoy and revel in the mysteries of my life and relieve all worry and suffering.
And so it is. Amen.
 

Love,

Allison

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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How to decondition bad habits

How to decondition bad habits

For a very long time, habits have been my nemesis. I have read many books on the topic, chasing the “good” ones and disdaining the “bad” ones…

When we are young, we have no capacity to discern between them. And so they settle in, for better or for worse. We follow them unconsciously for a while, until one say we say…

“If only I could be better at establishing good habits!”

It applies to:
vocalizing
(things that happen *while* vocalizing)
dish-doing
meditation
cat medication
journaling

But then there are those more toxic habits. They are like unconscious snakes in the grass, waiting to snap at your ankles when you least expect them.

This used to happen to me while singing. They were Thought Habits: conditioned responses to any situation in which I was to share my voice.

My thought habits were pretty insidious. They had settled into my practice for a long time, and I had no idea how full of snakes my untidy lawn had become.

It is typical that in order to finally change our ways, we hit a breaking point. (Or something actually breaks.) I was so done with the thought landscape of my voice that I swore off my bad habits and, well, everything in my life did a 180°.

I believe the reason why identifying, setting, and establishing “good” habits is so freaking difficult:

You don’t know who you will be on the other side of the habit.

And at the core of this fear surrounding the dissolution of (crappy, unhelpful, potentially self-destructive) habits is that we are too afraid to claim our own divine potential and true worthiness.

Who ARE you when you are prepared, timely, well-rested, creative, calm, and happy? And your cat is thriving, too?

Who are you when you become a grounded, integrated, focused, divine messenger of love, rather than an overthinking, unhappy, spiky, self-doubting soprano?

Changing your thoughts and actions requires a shift in consciousness. And you have to re-learn what to think and do.

But it only takes a small, simple moment to recognize that you are in a habit rut.

Any habit will begin to shift with recognition. Know when you are engaged in an unhelpful habit. Your understanding will begin to crack the veneer of whatever safety mechanism that habit was engaging for you.

Next comes the will to change. The will to embrace not only higher consciousness, but frankly, a better way. Whether in your singing, or art, or just life in general. 

It all begins with what I call a Sacred YES.

It is your call to action, your divine vow, your stepping through the threshold of fire that says, “I am willing to step into my greater potential (even though I am scared and I don’t know what I’m doing).”

Habits are mutable. They are changing, just as we are. Unconscious thoughts and actions based in fear and ignorance need not run the show. 

When you realize that this is no longer working for you, then make the first change: say YES to a better way.

And from one friend to another: I know that you are worthy and capable of amazing things.

Are you willing to claim that for yourself? 

Prompts for Embracing a Better Way

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

Is there a pattern in your life, art, or work that you would like to change? 

Why is this holding you back?

What is the source of this habit, pattern, or behavior? Why does it continue?

Are you willing to change? Yes or no?

If no, what is holding you back?

If yes, are you willing to make that Sacred YES right now? 

A Prayer for Personal Growth

Dear God,
Help me to choose a better life.
Help me to rise into my personal greatness.
Help me to loosen the binds of fear that keep me trapped in the spinning wheel of false safety.
I pray that I may be strengthened in mind and will to make sacred change in my life. 
I pray that I may taste the beauty of my precious life when I embrace my true gifts.
I pray that I may embrace my sacred worth and know my infinite potential when I am aligned with You.
Steady my hand and stand at my back as I walk through the sacred portal to claim the potential of my life, and in doing so become more alive.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

 

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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You already have everything you require.

You already have everything you require.

If there is one thing I could teach you about the voice and singing, it is this:

You already have everything you need.

You can continue to acquire skills and knowledge, better coordination, musical experience, expanded range and breath support, etc.

But that’s not what I am talking about. 

What I have truly learned from all the education, training, experience, coaching, crying, lamenting, rejoicing, and praying is that we, every one of us, inhabits an instrument of divine making.

What we must truly learn is how to access its innate wisdom, brilliance, functionality, and sacredness.

These truths are obscured for most of us. Societal, cultural, and familial conditioning will train us into believing that we have either got it, or we don’t. That our voice is somewhere on the invisible spectrum of Good and Bad.

(I’m kind of over it.)

Indeed, the Truth about the voice? About singing? About accessing your brilliance? About shedding the layers of fear and withholding?

The inner sacred confidence and willingness to share your gifts of sound and spirit does not stem from skills and talent.

It stems from the Knowing that your voice is an instrument of Divine Love, flowing through you in a unique, choreographed, sacred dance of breath and intention.

You have everything you already need, simply by being a human with a reason to sing.

The tricky bit? Well, it’s learning to allow it all to flow without so muchinterruption. Inference. Static. Resistance. Drag. It all comes from the mind.

(And I can spot that B.S. a mile away.)

The medicine is that what you learn how to tap into your innate sacred voice, you have take up the power to wield your voice as the Divine Messenger that you inherently are. 

You can tap into this power whenever you choose, and learn how to release the binds of the mind over your voice, your authentic self-expression, and your creative power in action.

The thing is, you get to choose.

How will you show up with your voice? How will you source the sound? How will you relate to others? And from where will you direct the flow of your musical and creative energy?

From your fear? Or from your heart.

Prompts for Your Sacred Voice

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

How have you related to your voice in the past?

How have you been influenced to think about your voice?

Has this supported you? Has this hindered you? Why?

What would you desire for your voice at this time?

Can you envision a heart-centered way of using your voice?

A Prayer for Your Sacred Voice

Dear God,
I desire to meet, and know, and use my true voice.
You have forged me into a Divine Instrument.
May I delight in my unique form and brilliance.
May I shed the layers of fear and resistance to using my true voice.
May I release the ties that bind my sound, my expression, and my true capacity as a Divine Messenger.
Grant me strength and the courage of a thousand to step into the true power of my voice.
Help me to stand firm in my willingness to share my gifts as an expression of Love.
Help me to use my instrument wisely, with ease, style, calm, and confidence.
Help me to step into my innate, divine brilliance, by nature of being being a divine spark of You.
May I use my voice in sacred service. 
May I shine in the knowledge that my voice is just as it should be in this moment.
May I radically accept the sacred instrument you have bestowed upon me, knowing that it is mine, and mine alone.
May I be an instrument of Your Love.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

 

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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The wisdom of Rest

The wisdom of Rest

I am taking some time away up on the coast of Maine with my family for two weeks.

(Two weeks. It seems like two years!)

It’s such a vital reflection point, taking the space and time to remove yourself from the regular comings and goings of life and work. It seems like my brain has been literally rewired overnight.

And in the absence of undergoing the functions of what I *should* be doing, I am asking: what do I choose to do?

What are the components of a beautiful, sacred, and thriving life / art / work?

Well, it seems to me that it’s pretty simple, really. 

The tricky bit is waiting for the outside stuff to match the inside stuff. 

It reminds me of the tides. I have never witnessed the tidal shifts as dramatically as where I am here on this rocky, glacier-carved coastline.

High tide is dramatic and feels so full. Low tide reveals something grittier, and even a little fallow. But teeming with hidden life.

I’ve noticed that we are constantly marking the day by the tides: It’s almost high-tide! It must be receding now. Careful! It’s coming back in fast. It’s not quite low-tide. We should wait.

Those highs and lows only come a few times a day. But what happens throughout the rest of the day? We are busy in the midst of actual life! And it’s a beautiful life. 

I’m going to give myself a new practice: to let go of comparing my highs and lows. But rather, to practice staying in the wave of Things.

May your journey of life be full of blessings.

Love,

Allison

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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How to be patient

How to be patient

Do you know Frog and Toad?

They are *wonderful* anthropomorphic children’s story characters (but really, these stories are for adults).

In a story titled “The Garden,” Toad comes to visit Frog one day, and sees his glorious and abundant garden. My goodness! he exclaims, I wish I could have a garden like this! 

Frog says: it’s hard work. But you can do it. He offers Toad some seeds, and says: plant these in the ground, and soon you will have a garden just like me.

How soon? Asks Toad.
Soon. Reassures Frog.

So Toad goes home and prepares the soil. He plants the seeds. He waters them. But he quickly grows impatient. And frustrated! In the few hours since he has planted his seeds, they have not grown!

He grows more impatient and frustrated. To the point that he begins yelling at his seeds: NOW SEEDS, START GROWING!

Frog happens by to check on his friend, who hears Toad yelling at his garden. He suggests nurturing the seeds, because now they are frightened! So Toad reads a story to them. He sings to them. He tries poems. Plays the violin.

Worried he has traumatized his seeds, and very weary from all the hard work, Toad decides to take a nap.

Frog awakens him, and points out that his seeds have finally, indeed, sprouted. 

This parable is about your inner garden.

Your garden requires some important elements: earth, sun, water, warmth. And patience. 

Let me be clear… Patience is not just waiting around for something to happen. Or surrendering to an eternity of time to manifest your dreams.

Patience is planting the seeds of your intention in a container of timelessness to nurture your garden. I call this sacred patience.

It is, without a doubt, one of the most important lessons I have ever learned as a creative, singer, mother, teacher, coach, entrepreneur, and curious human being.

Having sacred patience is to allow the unfolding of your dreams and desires without measuring the time, having complete trust in the process, and the ultimate manifestation of a fruitful outcome.

The lesson is to know that the timing of the unfolding of your dreams is not going to demand this many hours, days, or years. Because sometimes, our intentions really do manifest in the blink of an eye. (There is no divine ticking clock over our heads!)

And yet at other times, we must allow for the unfoldment of creation. We need time for integration. There may be wisdom to gain, or knowledge to acquire. There are relationships to establish. Or, most often, there is a lesson to learn.

And sometimes, there is a divine plan for you, and it’s simply not time yet.

Our fast-paced, instant-gratification, mercurial-minded muscles are well-honed. We are not interested in waiting around for results if it comes at the expense of a long, drawn-out, endless process.

But your garden is precious. It contains seeds that are sacred: a beautiful life, a beautiful voice, a beautiful work, a beautiful experience, a beautiful vision. 

Try not to rush it. Observe it. But please don’t yell at it! Allow it. Open your heart to its tending. Let go of the impulse to rush, and recognize that time is a thief of the living joy of discovery.

While you do, the fruits that your garden will yield will be more beautiful than you could possibly have intended.

 

Guided Prompts for Sacred Patience

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What are some precious intentions that you have planted in your garden?

How have you tended your intentions? Have you been patient, or impatient?

How would you like to feel as you manifest your intentions?

What does sacred patience mean to you, as it applies to your own garden?

Can you allow a sense of timelessness to support your intentions? 
 

 

A Prayer for Patience

Dear God,
Help me to be still. Help me to be peaceful. Help me to accept patience.
I plant the seeds of my desires in divine soil.
Help me to sow faith in my own precious garden.
Help me to nurture my intentions with love and reverence.
May they be blessed by you.
Help me to relinquish the energy of pushing, and embrace the spirit of allowing.
I entrust the fulfillment of my desires to you, as I surrender the process of their unfolding.
I pray that I may embrace true patience, with the knowledge that all is possible in the field of your infinite potential. 
Help me to become timeless.
Help me to trust.
Help me to embrace the process of growth in all its stages, for the benefit of my unfolding.
May my intentions be held in love, and breathed on by your Holy Spirit.
May they serve my highest good, and the betterment of the world.

And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

About Allison Mondel
Transformational Voice Coach, Singer, Teaching Artist, Director, Mentor, Speaker

I am a visionary artist, educator, and voice coach whose work stands at the intersection of vocal wellness, spiritual wisdom, and personal empowerment. With 25+ years of professional experience as a performer, teacher, and mentor, I empower others to access their innate vocal gifts through a holistic process, and ascend into their personal greatness. I have helped hundreds of students access their voice and step beyond their doubts into joyful, courageous, and purposeful self-expression. 

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Navigating the Messy Middle.

Navigating the Messy Middle.

There is a place between your desire and its culmination. I call it the Middle.

Otherwise known as in progress, in process, undergoing, unfolding, happening, rolling out, you get the idea.

Years ago when I was a student, I was impatient for my voice to hurry up and get better. I had a big recital to sing! I had a career to get going! I had to figure this out, and quick!

My dear, wise friend Robert saw my struggle, looked at me, and said, “Alls, it’s a process.

Well, process-schmocess was my response at the time. No one has the time to just sit around and WAIT for mastery. (Ah, the folly of youth!)

Of course, what I know now (and sometimes still don’t accept!) is that the Middle is a place that we live in all the time. Here how it works.

You have a desire. You dare to state that to the Universe.
{ MIDDLE STARTS }
You remain open to the process.
You receive guidance on how to proceed.
You respond by taking the actions necessary to see your desire fulfilled.
{ MIDDLE ENDS }
Your desire is fulfilled.
Repeat.

It’s a process. Like something else I know really well, the creative process.

Your life is a creation

However, what gets really sticky is the in-between bits. The waiting. The unfolding. The crafting. The pivoting. The excitement. The mistrust. The crazy thoughts. The revelations. The frustration. The fear. The guilt. 

Depending on your personality or the context, that Middle part might be deeply rewarding, or positively excruciating.

But let me cut to the chase: the Middle becomes Messy when we meet the places in which we are challenged to outgrow.

I’m not gonna lie: meeting your fears, de-conditioning your fear-based programming, and living into a new life usually falls into the Messy category.

It’s new. It’s hard. it’s strange. It’s real. It’s life.

But here is the medicine: the process of actualizing your desires does not have to be some form of torture. When you understand that the pathway to seeing your desire manifest in your life is, in fact, a spiritual creative process, you know that all is actually unfolding perfectly.

I don’t mean that it is easy all the time. We are constantly invited to grow. Which means we are going to meet an edge if you ask for something new in your life.

But we spend most of our time in the Middle. It’s the creative unfolding of your amazing life, work, and art. We are invited and called to trust the process.

 

Guided Prompts for Acceptance of the Creative Journey

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What is the most urgent desire you have in your life right now?

How are you currently responding to that desire? 

Take a moment to step back and ask: am I responding with my ego, or my spirit?

What are you resisting in this process of unfolding?

Can you radically accept where you are at this very moment?

Prayer for Being in the Process

Dear Creator,
I pray for support in the unfolding process of my life. 
May I be open to guidance.
May I be clearly guided.
May my response to life be wholehearted and courageous.
May I grow in trust, courage, and steadfastness as I walk the pathway of my desire.
Help me to accept the place that I am in at this moment, with the knowledge that all will change, grow, and evolve according to divine plan.
Help me to move through the places in which I am most bound by fear, so that I may be more alive with every passing day.
May my work and life be in honor to you, and in honor of my own miraculous life. 
Thank you for all that I have, and all that I have learned. 
Help me create the life of my dreams, so that the world may be blessed by my works which flow from love.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

Allison Mondel
Allison Mondel is a musician, philosopher, advocate, and mentor. Her greatest delight is to understand how things work, and share her hard-won wisdom with others. She writes about the higher nature of music and the voice, alchemizing personal roadblocks, and the pursuit of one's creative vocation.

Secrets, Feng Shui, and the Art of Letting Go

Secrets, Feng Shui, and the Art of Letting Go

The other day my client reminded me of one of the juiciest secrets I keep. (At least, it’s not something I put on my resume!)

But it’s also one of the best memories I have, a reminder of something that made me feel amazing, high as a kite, and wildly happy singing on stage with my friends, wielding my jazz hands like I was born for it.

I also happen to be uncovering some other secrets, hidden for decades in unmarked boxes now taking up space in my cellar. Thanks to that second-hand book of Feng Shui I started reading, I began honestly looking at what I have been unconsciously holding on to in the basement, and in my life. (Oy.)

So I keep what holds the most value, and acknowledge what no longer inspires. But it is not always easy to let go.

Who will I be if I no longer have my report cards from Hebrew School? Or the VHS of my 6th grade performance of Hansel and Gretel? Or my high school ice hockey jersey?

The book reminds me that clutter is an unseen, detrimental energy suck. And I can feel it. But I now choose to live consciously and intentionally. So what do I choose to hold onto?

I keep the mementos that bring me a thrill, and I let the rest go.

The report cards definitely go: no regrets about that.
The jersey stays: a reminder that I know how to kick ass.

But I have another secret to share: when it comes to your voice, most of us live unconsciously and unintentionally. Yet the way you use your voice exactly resembles a space in your home.

Your mind is the unconscious repository of memories, patterns, and experiences that affect the way you use and show up with your voice. Your experience is going to reflect the state of who you are, and what thoughts you hold on to about your singing.

For most people, this will be without awareness. We just do what we do, work hard (or not), and hope for the best. But mostly, we totally ignore the clutter in the basement. 

Yet if you want to surpass any issues related to your voice, then I encourage you to look under the surface. When you acknowledge the unconscious beliefs that are playing out in your singing, your life, or your career, you can intentionally craft a new experience. 

When I decided I no longer wanted to suffer on account of my voice, I made an intention to change. It was the most radical experience of my life. I could never have dreamed of the miracles that unfolded in my life as a result. It was a conscious choice to rise up, and an intention to release that which no longer worked for me.

But you must be open to the fact that change is not only possible, but it is on the other side of this moment.

When you choose to have a better experience, you open the doorway to whatever you choose to create. You can choose what you wish to keep, and let go of what no longer serves you. 

Take a moment to clean out the clutter. Then make a conscious choice to evolve, and an intention to thrive.

Guided Prompts for Healing Your Voice

Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

What beliefs have you been unconsciously holding onto about your voice?

Why?

How do you choose to feel about your voice?

Do you believe that change is possible?

What beliefs, patterns, or memories do you need to let go of in order to realize your vision for your voice?

Prayer for Healing Your Voice

Dear Creator,
I am ready to feel better about my voice. 
I release all pain, suffering, and heartache I harbor on account of my voice.
I release all attachments of painful memories, experiences, and shame about my voice.
I embrace change, and allow the next chapter for my voice to begin at this time.
I now rise up with my voice, and embrace my calling to be a messenger of divine love.
I reclaim my voice. I love my voice. I own my voice.
Please help me to understand the nature of my voice, and how I may consciously use my voice for the betterment of the world, and in my own life.
I pray for the will to transform, and the strength, courage, and determination to allow change.
May I use my voice consciously.
May my intention for my voice be infused with your love, and inspired by your will.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

Allison Mondel
Allison Mondel is a musician, philosopher, advocate, and mentor. Her greatest delight is to understand how things work, and share her hard-won wisdom with others. She writes about the higher nature of music and the voice, alchemizing personal roadblocks, and the pursuit of one's creative vocation.

The outlet for your voice.

The outlet for your voice.

Have you ever thought… If only I knew exactly how I am supposed to use my voice!

This is one of the most common questions I hear, borne from a deep, soulful longing mixed with some heady, existential frustration.

Let’s reframe the question so it seems less fretful:

What is the current outlet for me, my creativity, and my voice that is uniquely aligned with my identity, skills, talents, desires, and soul’s calling?

The sense of lack and confusion you may feel stems from fear and (omg lemme tell you) breeds overthinking. But lemme be honest: sometimes the current outlets that exist may just not feel like a good fit.

Sometimes your particular set of circumstances are just outside the realm of what seems normal, acceptable, straight arrow-ish, or “good enough” to fit into the mold. You may or may not consider yourself a revolutionary, but you may have that uncomfortable sense that what you want to do does not yet have its place.

It hasn’t been born. Invented. Ideated. Manifested. Why?

Because, my dear one, you may be the person to create that.

Conventional outlets for your voice remain vital, but please do not allow the current powers that be dictate or limit how you express your creative desires in this world of infinite possibility. 

You are unique. You are not simply a cog in some earth-bound wheel. That is worth celebrating, not lamenting!

The key ingredient, however, is your willingness to allow for something new to even be possible. I’m talking about a miracle, a shift in your current perspective, a temporary pause in your lack and confusion, so that a New Thing can be envisioned and ultimately, be made manifest.

Of course there is an outlet for your voice. If your desire comes from deep within, then listen for the guidance that calls from deep within.

You will be granted the will, strength, and courage to rise into your calling and ultimately create something sacred and painfully lovely that only you are meant to share with the world.

Guided Prompts for your Voice’s Unique Outlet
Take a moment to breathe, center awareness within the heart space, and enter into a state of stillness.  Allow these questions to guide your higher mind into clarity.

Where do you feel frustrated with the way you show up with your voice?

What do you feel called to do with your voice?

What are the fears or limiting beliefs that come up for you?

Do you have a desire to create something new?

What is holding you back from your desire? 

Prayer for Finding the Place for Your Voice

Dear Father, Mother, Creator,
I am ready to use my voice.
I allow my voice to rise.
I pray for the clarity to see the vision for my voice clearly.
Please help me understand the place for my voice, and how I may use my voice in divine service. 
I trust and pray for the ideal outlet for me and my voice.
I pray for the removal of fear, frustration, confusion, vagueness, and lack as I honor my calling for my voice.
I pray for the guidance and wisdom to move my inner desire into its unique, perfected, worldly form.
I am grateful for my unique gifts, experience, and identity, and know that there is a place for me and my voice.
May I be an instrument of beauty, light, and healing for the betterment of this world. 
May I discover and manifest the beautiful pathway for my voice, as you have willed.
And so it is. Amen.

Love,

Allison

Allison Mondel
Allison Mondel is a musician, philosopher, advocate, and mentor. Her greatest delight is to understand how things work, and share her hard-won wisdom with others. She writes about the higher nature of music and the voice, alchemizing personal roadblocks, and the pursuit of one's creative vocation.
Five Ways to Improve Your Relationship with your Voice

Five Ways to Improve Your Relationship with your Voice

Five Ways to Improve Your Relationship with your Voice

How do you conceive of your voice?

For most of us, we tend to think about one thing: how it sounds.

“This is my voice! This is how it sounds. I will assess my voice on the quality of its sound.”

My journey of voice discovery has led me to develop quite a different understanding. I had to learn – the hard way – that assessing my sound, and certainly worrying over-muchly about what Others thought of my sound, was creating a very toxic situation.

And yet, our voice is so much more than sound.

The difference is the conception of our voice as the manifestation of our sacredness and whole being, rather than the relative quality of the sound that emanates through our mouths.

But we all know that there are inherent challenges in using our voices, and singing as we we would wish, and making the easeful, lovely sounds that we all long for, and communicating the very best things through music and language.

The challenges or frustrations we may face in using our voice will naturally lead to a sense of separation with, or objectification of our voice. Which then leads to a relationship with our voice that becomes out of balance, overly critical, less integrated, and more mechanical. Indeed, it may separate us from the very content of what we wish to express when we sing, and ultimately, ourselves.

Let us consider, then, how to reframe our conception of our voice. We can expand its capacity, and release the limiting belief that our voice is only equal to its relative quality of its sound.

Here are five ways in which you can cultivate a more loving, healthy, and joyful connection with relationship with your voice.

1) Acknowledge that your voice is not separate from you.

You are not a sound-making robot, and your voice is not a separate computer program running independently from the rest of you. Invite your voice to integrate with your whole being. I use this invocation: I call forth my Sacred Voice. Use your own words, as you feel inspired. Notice how this shift makes you feel and how it affects the way you produce sound.

2) Make a pledge to cease all negative critique.

I’m dead serious here. Throw down the gauntlet for yourself. Removing negativity is an instant way to clear the debris that is cluttering up your pathway to using your voice. I suggest making a pledge that goes something like: “I pledge that I will no longer abuse my voice or myself when I sing.” Words are powerful, Dear One. Especially yours.

3) Connect with your voice.

Easily one of the most powerful methods to grow the health and wellness of your voice is to communicate with your voice on a deeper level. I have a regular journaling practice that keeps me in touch with my higher self. Whenever I run into any trouble or doubt, or am unclear about a way forward, I pick up a pen and journal (or honestly any piece of printer paper lying around) and ask my voice for what it needs, what is blocking me, or whatever is coming up in the moment that I would like to shift.

4) Shift from the assessing the quality of sound to the quality of production.

My friend, you would be the most normal person ever if you are listening to yourself as you sing. I have very bad news for you: this is not beneficial for healthy, well, connected, free singing. What it will do is further separate you from your voice and add a great deal of mental noise and tension. Rather, practice allowing your focus to be on the heart-centered awareness of your Self, and then the breath. This will allow you to gain a clearer vision of what you hope to express, tap into your intuition, make adjustments in the moment, and ultimately give you the freedom to choose and create whatever sound you desire. The practice is to return to the heart center over and over and over again. Notice the way you feel about your voice as a result.

5) Assume that your voice has the capacity to work just fine.

When we do not trust our voice, or doubt our sound, we tend to jump to the conclusion that our voice is broken/ weird/ bad/ or faulty. A recipe for a toxic relationship! Please hear me: your factory settings are enough. Most likely, like any computer you have ever had, your mind has become overrun with too many files and outdated programs that affect its capacity to operate effectively. So rather than jump to the conclusion that your voice is (insert some judgment here), consider that your voice is just fine, and perhaps something is obscuring its natural light. That something is probably your greatest insight on how to move forward on your voice journey.

I invite you to consider your relationship with your voice. How could you improve the way you relate to your sound? Could any one of these points help you create a more positive impact on how you use your voice?

Your voice has so much capacity, so much depth, so much beauty to bring forth. I believe it starts with a healthy, whole relationship.

Hugs,

allison

Allison Mondel
Allison Mondel is a musician, philosopher, advocate, and mentor. Her greatest delight is to understand how things work, and share her hard-won wisdom with others. She writes about the higher nature of music and the voice, alchemizing personal roadblocks, and the pursuit of one's creative vocation.

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